80-20

Last night I was having dinner with V at this awesome little restaurant in Columbia (recommended by Jolene, thanks!) called the Iron Bridge Wine Company - from the windows you look upon the rolling hills of Clark's Elliot Farm, the walls are lined with wine bottles, and the food is fantastic. I told him that I thought he might like the crispy plantain chips that came on top of his dish because I knew that he liked to eat a barbecue potato chip with every bite, for texture, when he gets a sub from subway. He looked at me with genuine suprise (and pleasure?) that I noticed and remembered something like that about him.

This morning I was thinking that when you are in a relationship, you are the other person's biggest fan - but simultaneously thier worst critic. I guess relationships start to go sour when the critic's voice becomes louder then the fan's. The moral is for both people to work hard and never get lazy in the relationship! I read once that if you feel like you are giving 50%, you aren't trying hard enough. You should always feel like you are giving 80%. If both parties do that, it does seem difficult to become resentful and fail! Of course there are other reasons why relationships fail, but anyway, I'm just being general. That photo is actually of our waiter! I liked the Pinot Noir. Also I set up a computer from scratch, including installing the operating system. yay me!