i like soy milk anyway.

One thing that came up in a conversation this morning is the saying, 'why buy the cow when you're getting the milk for free'

Now, while that may be true, its really too simplistic. First of all, the cow may not want to be bought. Once the farmer owns the cow, he might not milk her so sweetly, he might take her for granted since she's always around, he will probably expect her to plow the field as well as giving milk. Second and perhaps most important of all, does the cow really want the farmer to buy her because she's holding out on him? I mean doesn't she want him to buy her because he loves her and will take good care of her, always putting her first, and wants to spend the rest of his life with her? I don't think the cow should consider letting the farmer buy her unless she is sure he loves her. Because, milk isn't everything. Well, chocolate milk maybe...

Anyway I was saying, that saying is only applicable to women with an agenda. An agenda like, Land a Husband. Which implies, presumably for monetary gain, a woman has a plan to get a certain guy to propose, and goes about trying to coerce him to do this with different tricks and psychological tactics, or even flat out pressure and threats. I guess they call that 'playing the game' and some say that men need to be forced to settle down, but something about it strikes me as gross. Maybe I'm a romantic and not a realist, maybe I'm living in fantasy la-la-land, but I don't want a man to ask to marry me because I fought off all of the competition, embedded some subconcious pushes, told his friends just the right thing to get them to try to talk him into it, have an ultimatum, or whatever. I want it to be the clear and only path for that man. Unquestionable. Love, not tricks. Love, not fear of being alone. Love, not 'crap i'm getting old, i better marry someone'. Love, not familial pressure. Love love love.

Am I being naive?

So, when asked whether or not I have an agenda, I can with a clear concience say, no, I don't. Or, my agenda is to be happy and try to make others happy, and I plan (hope to have the balls) to follow whatever path that seems the most likely to bring those results, in an open and honest way. Isn't it OK to not have an agenda, a.k.a. conniving girl-plan?

The moral of the story is, LOVE YOUR COW.