"Mawwaige. Mawwaige is what bwings us togevah today. Mawwaige... that bwessed awwaingement. That dweam wivin a dweam......"
If you haven't been there in a while, check out the latest on 'Steve, Don't Eat It!' about making jailhouse hootch.This weekend I attended the thirtieth birthday of a girl I went to highschool with (we'll just call her 'Man-hater' to protect her identity). During the party, she announced that for her birthday present from her husband, she wanted him to sleep in the spare bedroom.
How rough is that.
apparently all night they were drunk and taking digs at each other-- all with laughs and smiles but clearly displaying their dysfunctional marriage to the world.Well, at least they're honest about it! Most of the world is dysfunctional behind closed doors, but seem perfect in public so that everyone else has to feel bad and like they are the only ones in the world with problems. So, here is the question I pose, although it may have no true answer, or be a bit too esoteric:
Marriage: Is it worth it?
or,
Marriage: Is there such thing as a good one (after the first 5 years?)
(Depressing) Marriage Quotes:
- Marriage is a three ring circus: engagement ring, wedding ring, and suffering. (Anonymous)
- Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably they are both disappointed. (Albert Einstein)
- After marriage, husband and wife become two sides of a coin; they just can't face each other, but still they stay together. (Hemant Joshi)
- A man is incomplete until he is married. After that, he is finished. (Zsa Zsa Gabor)
- Bigamy is having one wife too many. Monogamy is the same. (Oscar Wilde)
- Instead of getting married again, I'm going to find a woman I don't like and give her a house. (Lewis Grizzard)
- If you want to sacrifice the admiration of many men for the criticism of one, go ahead, get married. (Katherine Hepburn)
- I'm not a witch, I'm your wife! (Valerie to Miracle Max, The Princess Bride)
posted by Evil Genius @ 4:10 PM
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11 Comments:
oh man i totally was watching saturday night live this past saturday and there was a skit called "the couple that should be divorced" and it was just like that story about that girl hahahah. LIKE EXACTLY. word.
That is one negative outlook on marriage. WOW!!!!
I like it! Marriage that is ...
Melzie,
Aren't you in your first 5 years still? ;)
I've never been married so I can't say for sure if it's worth it. My Dad got divorced from my Mom when I was 5 then yrs later met a woman and lived with her 18 yrs before marrying her. Guess he wanted to be sure the 2nd time. They aren't very much alike and I'm not sure if they are happy but they are still together.
My grandparents met in Iowa when they were young and have been happily married for 60+ yrs. From my perspective they are the model for a perfect marriage. They also come from a generation when people didn't get divorced.
I read a quote about marriage that was something like, 'marriage is easy when you are young, you want eachother. its easy when you are old, you need eachother. its the middle years that are tricky...'
that is so true.
I guess I am still in the first five years, technically- it will be 6 years next March.
here's the key to marriage, don't marry someone too different from you- like morals, religious beliefs, ethnic background, etc, it causes major probs if you have kids later on, - it helps if they have no debt, and a good work ethic, like can hold down a job! even better if they are fairly established before you date them. all the other things cause serious probs down the road- Also good if they are not a psycho jerk! Im no expert on the subject- just speaking from experience.
My grandma always said you can tell how a man will treat you by how they treat their mother- seems like good advice.
maybe its cuz im the eternal optimist, but even after dating a ton of schmucks and knowing way too many men (and women) that cheat, i still think its possible to have a successful marriage. i think its worth it to at least try! well, at least for me. but not with just anyone... seems to me that too many people (especially women) ignore their gut feelings about someone for whatever reason or feel pressure to marry by a certain age or to a certain kind of person, even if thats not what they really want. so yeah, i dunno, i think its worth giving it a shot! not like its the end of the world if it doesnt work out. besides, even if u dont get married, u can have all those bad things happen anyways. it just depends on the people and how you deal with ur relationship. people change over time and people have to go with that.
anywhoo.. on another point, about the people who seem perfect in public. i came across a book called Status Anxiety. i havent read it yet, but it looks really interesting and addresses some of these issues. i'll blog about it later.
I love the Lewis Grizzard quote.. and old fav of mine. Actually, my dad had 8-tracks he made me listen to in the car during family vacations. Grizzard and uh-- Jerry Clower. ugh.
i just posted a blog u should listen to ... its related to this subject!
akashagrrl.blogspot.com
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