Monday, May 15, 2006

are some things too private to blog about?

Obviously yes, but also apparent is the fact that I fail to draw the proper line on occasion.
There is a fine line between honest, raw, and thus interesting blogging and revealing too much of someone else's private info. What's a journalist to do? I read once that a lot of comedians' families hate them because in trying to come up with good jokes they often use their own friends and family as material. That said, I will reveal an embarrassing story about my brother which may cause him to hate me but will explain why he doesn't know who Tracy Lords is (raised by an abusive, alcholic father, started her carreer at the tragically young age of 16, made 100 porn films by the time she reached 18). Once in school, he was asked to read a passage from a book out loud to the class. Within that passage was the word 'whore.' Now, its not that my brother had never been exposed to that word, but that he had never heard it spoken out loud. Well, you can imagine the snickers from the classroom when he mispronounced it as 'wore'

Although a funny story, I do wish on my kids this level of naivete and innocence, and lack of exposure to the grittier side of life that children seem to learn about earlier and earlier. Frankly, I respect not knowing who Tracy Lords is a great deal more then someone who can list off porn stars organized by favorites. Its an old school sort of gentlemanliness that I find refreshing. I heard a quote by Vince Vaughn once, and whether its b.s. or not I really liked it. He said he doesn't like to watch porn because he feels bad for the women. He just wants to go wrap a blanket around them and ask them if they're alright. I truly hope I can raise my boys to be like that, fighting the influence of their somewhat misogynist father...

9 Comments:

At 1:06 PM, Blogger Julia said...

Interesting. I have the complete opposite point of view, however, I have a daughter.

And I'm damn glad she knows as much about sex as she does. I consider that to be protection.

Although I do pine for a world where that would not be necessary.

 
At 3:38 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think that kids should know enough about sex to understand that unprotected sex can lead to STD's and pregnancy. Not sure about the age that you should let them know. I think that at age 10 they may get a course in school.

 
At 6:12 PM, Blogger Noam said...

I don't know why I would hate you for telling that story. (Perhaps you thought it was a mortifying embarrassement? It was just silly, that's all.) However, I do wonder why you would tell it if you thought it might make me hate you!

You're reading too much into my mispronouncing "whore". I also thought "heir" was pronounced "hare". It's not that I'd never heard people say "whore", I just didn't realize it was the same word as the one I read in books.

Moreover, what exactly is wrong with innocence and naivete? I think it's super.

Hillary Clinton's view on kids and sex is, don't do it until you're 21, and then don't tell her about it.

 
At 6:13 PM, Blogger Noam said...

And, how do *you* know who Tracy Lords is?

 
At 8:27 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

21? I think Hillary is a bit naive.

 
At 10:05 AM, Blogger Evil Genius said...

I know who she is from John Waters films such as Crybaby, of course!

 
At 11:57 AM, Blogger Kevin said...

Tracy Lords is tragically famous because she was exploited at such a young age and later romanitised by hollywood and VH1/E's "where are they now" shows. Her films are crime scenes because she was underaged and it is illegal for anyone to own them. It's also disgusting.

 
At 11:19 AM, Blogger Noam said...

The Washington Post ("Is Teen Sex Bad?" 5-16-06) has an interesting dicussion, here's an excerpt:

In our bicultural household -- I am American, my husband is Swedish -- we are trying to raise our children with the language, cultures and values of both countries. In most cases this isn't difficult. In one area, however, our values differ widely: My husband, reflecting the predominant view in Sweden and much of Western Europe, thinks sex is a normal part of adolescent development. Like many in this country, I disagree, believing it's better for teens to wait -- if not until marriage, at least until they are in an adult, loving relationship.

 
At 1:15 PM, Blogger Noam said...

You know that Jews are far disproportionate represented in academia, entertainment, finance, medicine, law, government, non-profits, and well, most fields. But porn? Looking up Traci Lords and seeing her father was Jewish, I stumbled upon this article about there being so many Jews in the porn industry. I never would have guessed, that us mensches can be hoes.

 

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